When a loved one is experiencing dementia, there may come a time when memory care becomes the best option for their safety and well-being. While this decision is often made with their best interests at heart, bringing up the topic can feel daunting. How do you approach such an emotional conversation with care, compassion, and clarity?
Here are some practical tips to help you navigate this delicate discussion:
Start the Conversation Early
One of the best ways to approach this sensitive topic is to start the conversation early. When you discuss the possibility of memory care before it becomes an immediate need, you allow your loved one time to process the idea and express their preferences. Including them in the planning helps preserve their dignity and autonomy, ensuring they feel valued and heard.
Listen With Compassion
As you explore the possibility of memory care, make space for your loved one’s thoughts and emotions. Compassionate listening can make all the difference. Keep their basic emotional needs at the forefront of your conversation:
- They need to feel safe. Reassure them that your goal is to ensure their security and well-being.
- They need to feel they belong. Highlight how memory care provides a community where they can connect with others.
- They need to feel valued. Acknowledge their concerns and involve them in decisions whenever possible.
Be Honest and Open
Transparency is key to building trust. When discussing memory care, use clear and positive language. For example, describe the facility as a supportive environment with activities and staff trained to meet their needs. Involve your loved one in the decision-making process to reduce frustration and to uncover personal preferences you might not be aware of.
Choose Your Words Carefully
If you anticipate resistance to the idea of memory care, focus on framing the conversation in a way that emphasizes shared goals. Instead of saying, “You need to move,” try asking questions like, “What would you like your care to look like as things progress?” This approach fosters collaboration and reminds them that you’re on the same team.
Build Familiarity
For loved ones in the earlier stages of dementia, consider introducing them to the memory care facility gradually. Visiting together can help create a sense of comfort and familiarity, making the transition smoother when the time comes. Take note of the aspects they respond positively to, such as engaging activities or warm interactions with staff, and highlight these when discussing the move.
We’re Here to Help
Deciding if memory care is right for your loved one can be overwhelming, and helping them transition may feel emotionally draining. At Sundara Senior Living, we understand the challenges caregivers face during this time. If you’re unsure how to proceed or would like guidance on finding the best options for your loved one, don’t hesitate to reach out to us with your questions.
You can also schedule a tour of our facility with your loved one to determine if our small, home-like care facility feels like a good fit for your family. Each of our homes is limited to 16 residents, which promotes a degree of familiarity and a sense of comfort, stability and security unmatched at larger communities.
To schedule a tour, click here to contact us or call 512-399-5080.